Happy Valentine’s Day!

Valentine’s Day is sold as a day of romance, where you buy each other romantic gifts. And, if you’re alone, well, too bad for you. But Valentine’s Day really should be a day about love, not just romance.

I Am Smart

On this particular day, my son couldn’t think of anything to tell me about school. And I grew angry. The kind of silent anger that I didn’t voice, but he could sense. I saw him nervously flipping through his binder of schoolwork containing words that he didn’t understand. He was looking for something — anything — that he recognized so that he could make me happy.

My mother’s shoes

Every year, I go to the Coach store and buy my mother a scarf, or a handbag, or a wallet, or a hat, or a pair of shoes — things she likes, but would never buy for herself. She tells me often that the only nice clothes she owns are the ones I bought for her. This isn’t entirely true. My siblings have given her some lovely things or gifted her with money to buy whatever she wants. But it is true that the two of us have gone shopping together the most.

We are family

Did you know that parents have an official day? In the United States, Parents’ Day falls on July 28 this year. But in Korea, Parents’ Day is today. What’s that, you say? You’ve never heard of Parents’ Day? Truth be told, I wasn’t familiar with the day myself. But now that I’m a mom, hey, I’ll take whatever holiday you want to throw my way.

Love is always right

These two little preschoolers have no preconceived notions of who you’re supposed to love. They just know that if you’re very lucky, you get to marry your best friend.

Letting go

All parents have those days when they fantasize about getting their kids out of the house. But when it actually happens, it’s often a bittersweet moment. My 3-1/2 year old son started preschool this week. He didn’t want to go. I know this because he said, “I don’t want to go.” While part of him was intrigued by the idea of attending school like some of his friends, the cling-on part of him didn’t want to go anywhere if he couldn’t be with me.

A letter to my son

One day, you and I will argue and you will get angry with me—you may even resent me and wish you had a different mother. Just remember that I let you kick me in the head and chest almost every night that you have been home with us so far. 😉 But only because you’re so cute. And even if you ever wish you had a different mother, just know that I will always be so happy and grateful that you are my son. You are my everything.

A 1985 Newspaper Essay, Popularized on the Internet, Comes Full Circle

I’m trying very hard not to put off, hold back or save anything that would add laughter and luster to our lives. And every morning when I open my eyes I tell myself that this is a special occasion.