The Art of Saying No

If you want me to write about pop culture for a magazine, I will accept (for the appropriate payment). If you want someone to help your kid get into Harvard, do not ask me to look over anything. Hire a professional who specializes in this and who really wants your business (and it is a business — you will have to pay them). You don’t want an overtired, overworked and resentful me saying, “Okay,” because I don’t want to hurt your feelings. Seriously. You get what you pay for.

On what defines a “good Korean daughter”

A reader sent me this message: “No offense but you don’t seem like you are a good Korean daughter. From what I’ve read of you, you are not a Christian, you married a white man, you are not in a honourable field that makes a good salary, and you don’t speak Korean. You have a Korean child and you aren’t going be able to raise him with his own birth culture. You should be ashamed of yourself, don’t you think? I don’t think you are a bad person. I just don’t think you are a good role model for Koreans children.”