My son

A few months after he had been with us, Kyle began losing his Korean and speaking predominantly English. It became most apparent when he cried for me one night, but he didn’t cry out for umma (which means mommy). He said, “Mom!” I don’t know how I feel about that. It is so hard to learn a new language when you are older, but it is so easy to forget it. Being fluent in a second language often is something you don’t appreciate until you’re no longer bilingual.

Becoming a family

A year ago today, we received our Travel Call. That’s the adoption equivalent of a pregnant woman’s water breaking. It meant that our baby was ready to come home. Super organized me lost it and couldn’t think straight. Super cheap me actually paid a travel agent to make all the travel arrangements for Denton and me to travel to Korea. (Granted, he specializes in adoption airfare…)

A letter to my son

One day, you and I will argue and you will get angry with me—you may even resent me and wish you had a different mother. Just remember that I let you kick me in the head and chest almost every night that you have been home with us so far. 😉 But only because you’re so cute. And even if you ever wish you had a different mother, just know that I will always be so happy and grateful that you are my son. You are my everything.

Specialty airfares

It’s been drilled into our heads that the best way to get a cheap airline ticket is to buy it well in advance of your travel date. But parents adopting children from overseas often have no idea when that date might be. And once their adoption agency gives them the go-ahead to bring home their child, they typically have only a matter of days to make all the arrangements.

And the waiting is the hardest part …

There is a sentiment that babies don’t know anything or are too young to remember. I wish this were true, but it’s not. They remember, mourn and grieve (especially the loss of their moms). We don’t want our baby to suffer, but there is no way to prevent this. There are ways to help ease the child into the transition though, and this includes keeping the baby’s world very small in the beginning.

“Trail of Crumbs” by Kim Sunee

With Trail of Crumbs: Hunger, Love, and the Search for Home (Grand Central, 370 pages, $24.99), first-time author Kim Sunee writes a fascinating account of her life thus far. Abandoned as a child in South Korea, Sunee remembers telling the policemen who found her that her name was Chong Ae Kim, she was 3 years old and her mother — who had left her with a small fistful of food — would be coming back for her. endure insensitive remarks from people who don’t understand the longing children may feel for the birth families they can no longer remember.

“Welcome Home, Roxy Carmichael”

Blondie’s Deborah Harry has said that as a little girl, she had hoped Marilyn Monroe was her mother. The fantasy of having a celebrity parent is not lost on 15-year-old Dinky Bossetti (Winona Ryder), who is positive that the glamorous Roxy Carmichael is indeed her birth mother.

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