EVERYONE needs to read this. It’s a Reuters investigation on child traffickers. It is one of the most sickening and disgusting things I have ever read. There are forums on the internet (including Facebook) where “parents” (and I use that term loosely) can give away their adopted children for being inconvenient/not what they signed up for/harder to raise than they anticipated. There is no vetting system. They just freaking give the kids away to ANYONE, including pedophiles and sadists:
KIEL, Wisconsin – Todd and Melissa Puchalla struggled for more than two years to raise Quita, the troubled teenager they’d adopted from Liberia. When they decided to give her up, they found new parents to take her in less than two days – by posting an ad on the Internet.
Nicole and Calvin Eason, an Illinois couple in their 30s, saw the ad and a picture of the smiling 16-year-old. They were eager to take Quita, even though the ad warned that she had been diagnosed with severe health and behavioral problems. In emails, Nicole Eason assured Melissa Puchalla that she could handle the girl.
“People that are around me think I am awesome with kids,” Eason wrote.
A few weeks later, on Oct. 4, 2008, the Puchallas drove six hours from their Wisconsin home to Westville, Illinois. The handoff took place at the Country Aire Mobile Home Park, where the Easons lived in a trailer.
No attorneys or child welfare officials came with them. The Puchallas simply signed a notarized statement declaring these virtual strangers to be Quita’s guardians. The visit lasted just a few hours. It was the first and the last time the couples would meet.
To Melissa Puchalla, the Easons “seemed wonderful.” Had she vetted them more closely, she might have discovered what Reuters would learn:
• Child welfare authorities had taken away both of Nicole Eason’s biological children years earlier. After a sheriff’s deputy helped remove the Easons’ second child, a newborn baby boy, the deputy wrote in his report that the “parents have severe psychiatric problems as well with violent tendencies.”
• The Easons each had been accused by children they were babysitting of sexual abuse, police reports show. They say they did nothing wrong, and neither was charged.
• The only official document attesting to their parenting skills – one purportedly drafted by a social worker who had inspected the Easons’ home – was fake, created by the Easons themselves.
On Quita’s first night with the Easons, her new guardians told her to join them in their bed, Quita says today. Nicole slept naked, she says.
You wanna know why there is a contingent of people — including, most importantly, adoptees — who want reform in the adoption system and/or are against adoption? This is one of the reasons.
Kudos to Reuters for this amazing expose. Read all five parts. Then ask yourself, what will you do to help ensure that this stops?
I can see why some people hate adoptive parents. I am an adoptive parent, and I dislike some of them, too. Like the ones I met in Korea who told me they chose international adoption so their child will never be reunited with his birth parents. Or the ones who told me they’re not going to teach their kids Korean because this is ‘Merica, dammit, and they only need to know English. Or the ones who are actually sympathetic to these CRIMINALS who gave away their adopted children to predators on the internet.
One woman in an adoption forum said this:
I certainly don’t mean to diminish the feelings of these poor children who are caught in the middle. I am heart-broken for them! I’m not sure how I feel about the adoptive parents in the cases that I read. Part of me thinks they need to face consequences—you do not walk away from your children! And part of me knows that my imagination probably can’t come close to the horrifying realities that they’ve lived—with no support—no where to turn to. I can only imagine how desperate they must have felt to do this. Incredibly sad all the way around.
Another one wrote this:
The part that bothers me though is that it is just another “adoption gone wrong” story that highlights the negatives (hopefully a small percentage??? I’m not sure what this number is) and they seem to ignore the fact that there are millions of children who have been adopted and are thriving in loving homes. It just fuels the haters:(
This was my response:
I’ll put it out there: THIS ISN’T ABOUT US, the adoptive parents. Who cares if people say we stink? Unlike these children, we have the means to stand up for ourselves.
If someone gave birth and threw her baby away in a garbage can, would you be horrified? Or would you say, “Oh, that poor mom. She must’ve been so stressed and felt she had no other option but to throw her baby away.”
THIS IS THE EXACT SAME THING. THESE PEOPLE THREW THEIR CHILDREN AWAY LIKE THEY WERE GARBAGE! AS PARENTS, YOU SHOULD ALL BE HORRIFIED!!!
The reason this expose is being highlighted — rather than all the adoptions that go well — is because it is horrifying! And it is news! And it is something that many of us parents knew nothing about.
Do we have news reports about all the days that go by without a plane crash? Or an automobile collision? Or all the days where schools aren’t shot up? No, because that is the norm.
This is NEWS, and instead of saying, “Oh, the adoptees hate us,” we should be saying, “Oh my God. What can we do to help stop this?”
I am an adoptive parent and I love my child more than anything, which is why it horrifies me that this kind of sadism, cruelty and immorality goes on anywhere. I wish nothing but the worst for everyone involved in this: The child traffickers who should be locked up and never released from prison. NEVER. And the adoptive “parents” (and I use that term loosely) who pawn their children off on people they know NOTHING about. WHAT THE ACTUAL HECK?! Who does that?
You can’t parent your child? For whatever reason? Ok. While I have strong feelings about this issue, there are safe and legal ways to disrupt your adoption. Giving your kids away to predators isn’t one of them.
© 2013 JAE-HA KIM
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